When someone says yes once, it’s hard for them to say no
afterwards.
And if someone says no to you, it’s hard for them to switch
to a yes.
Get them to say yes first.
This is one of the principles of persuasion used in Robert
Cialdini’s book Influence. The Commitment and Consistency principle.
So how do we use Commitment and Consistency?
To create a Yes chain, you have to make the questions you’re
asking geared towards agreeing to the idea of rather than a specific
answer.
For example, “I’d love to see you again, would you like to
meet up for coffee sometime?” or “Listen, do you want to make more money or are
you happy with where you’re at?”
And there’s your first yes.
Then, follow up with “What’s your schedule like next
week?” After he or she’s given you their schedule and you know your schedule,
you can finally ask a specific question: How’s Thursday at 4pm by the cafĂ© near
your place sound?
This transition is smooth.
It’s extremely difficult to make someone commit to something
that involves a huge leap. This process creates small steps to that lead
to the answer you want.
Once the first step is taken, it creates a commitment
to continue to take that next step.
By now, you should be able to see how this can be applied to
various areas in your life.
You have to get them to agree to the idea of what you want to persuade them to.
Then, continue to positively reaffirm them.
Then, continue to positively reaffirm them.
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