Social: The Aspect Everyone Must Get Right To Live A Happy Life.

Do you struggle with love? Friendship? Is it hard for you to find that right business partner?

Most people are quick to assume that much happiness comes from money—wealth.  This is especially true when we are bombarded with advertisements and videos of people smiling and floundering their materialistic possessions.  

Others, believe that happiness stems from your health. That seems right…? If you think about it, what good is all the money in the world if you can’t be healthy enough to enjoy it? But, there have been countless of cases where people suffer tragic injuries losing one of their senses. Yet, they seem to rebound and appreciate life even more despite their loss of health. 

Contrary to popular belief, neither health nor wealth achieve the long lasting effect of happiness. Now, don’t get me wrong. These are very important when you are striving for the good life. 

But, if there was one thing that you had to put your total focus on, it should be your social life. The relationships you build over time are where most of your happiness comes from. So it’s extremely important to get this right.

The crazy thing is, we all struggle with relationships. It doesn’t matter if you’re young, old, male or female. 

We all have challenges in that department.

What’s crazier is that throughout our years in the educational system we were never really taught the importance of relationships. You would think that would be one of the most important life aspects to teach in our society.

Below, I will share with you the 3 main attachment styles (and rare 4th) explained by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller. Attachment styles are manners in which people perceive and respond to intimacy in relationships.

•  Secure: Warm, loving, okay to be attached, and comfortable with intimacy. Around 50% of people.

• Anxious: Craves intimacy and constantly preoccupied with relationships. A perfect example would be if a loved one hasn’t texted you back and you quickly jump to the assumption they don’t love you back.  Around 20% of people.

• 3  Avoidant: Minimizes intimacy and equates intimacy with a loss of independence. Around 25% of people.

• Anxious Avoidant: Displays tendencies of both. Roughly 3-5% of people.

Now before you jump to conclusions, it’s important to note that neither attachment style is better than the other.

The main point here is awareness of which attachment style you have and which best complements you.

As a secure individual you tend to have more choices. You can easily find a solid relationship with all three attachment styles. Oddly enough, there isn’t any added benefit when two secure attachment styles come together.

As an anxious individual you tend to gravitate towards someone who is avoidant. However, you’re best complemented with a secure individual. In life, we often know what is best for us. Despite this, our tendencies seem to do the opposite. Even though secure people are the best fit for anxious people, anxious people view the relationship as boring. Why boring? Because there is no drama. There is no “why didn’t they text me quickly.” But it’s not really boring. The truth is, there is an addiction built to that type of drama where an anxious individual craves the attention of an avoidant individual. Even though they are never reassured.

As an avoidant individual you tend to gravitate towards someone who is anxious. The same situation applies as mentioned above, but in reverse.

The more you become acquainted with these attachment styles, the more your relationships with friends, loved ones, and business partners will flourish. You'll be less stressed and more happy in every aspect of your life as a result.

It’s important to note that, as we go through life events and changes in our environment that it's possible to change our attachment style. However, the more likely case is it won’t happen. 

We aren’t 100% of one attachment style. We are a combination of all three. All three are still around because they provided a purpose for us through history. Try not to look at this science as black and white. Sometimes in life there are exceptions and there aren’t any really clear cut answers.

What attachment style are you? 

Pick up your copy of the book Attached: The new science of adult attachment and how it can help you find and keep love.

My name is Romario Villanueva.  Entrepreneur & blogger. I'm a graduate from Rutgers University with several certifications from top schools through Coursera. I love all things business, psychology, and basketball. Feel free to reach out to me on Twitter or LinkedIn

Disrupt The World: You are only 2 steps away from achieving something great.

Entrepreneurship is something that creeps in all our minds at one point.

It’s not necessarily proactively stressed in our educational system. Not to mention the 90% failure rate of startups. 

Together, these don’t make it necessarily an enticing approach to go after. 

At the end of the day, failing sucks. Trust me I made plenty of mistakes in my life. At the same time, though, I’ve been blessed to be introduced to a whole different world. 

It seems to me that it’s a path not often taken. If you clicked on the link above you can see why. 

Despite this, if you ask many successful entrepreneurs it is definitely worth the journey. Surprisingly, there is a simple concept to follow. Though, it’s not easy.   

What does it take to be an entrepreneur?

Think about your day. 

We wake up, shower and head to work. 

In those 3 seemingly simple steps, we all come across something we all experience, regardless of who you are.

That is problems. 

Think about it. 

Rich, poor or even middle class, we all have problems. 

Our problems may be different. Nonetheless, we all have them.

And according to Jay Samit, with problems we are already half way towards accomplishing something great.

The key is how we look at problems.

Instead of thinking of problems as hurdles to cry about…why not think of them as opportunities to solve? An opportunity to solve other people’s problems? An opportunity to make not only your life better, but your friends and family’s as well. 

Once you compile your list of problems to solve (visit JaySamit’s website for your Free Disrupt You! companion workbook) you now have ideas. 

The only thing left is to make those ideas come to life.

And that comes with perseverance. 

More on perseverance

Earlier I mentioned my fair share of failings. 

They suck.

They do hurt.

They do cause you stress.

They do sap your energy.

The thing you can't do is succumb to failure. Failure is when we mentally shutdown. In other words, you throw the towel in.

But there is something that keeps us going.

With perseverance comes motivation. Now you may be familiar with this. You know what I'm talking about, when our motivation levels are through the roof...to start. But over time, our motivation levels tend to wane. 

What can we do about that?

Well just as we need a refresher by showering daily to feel good and clean, you could also say we need motivational refreshers. 

And with everyone that is something different. 

You just have to get to know and be real with yourself to find out what truly motivates you.

Conclusion 

You can Disrupt the world. But disruption starts with personal disruption. Don't be tied down to a system. Don't listen to others who failed to fulfill their dreams. Think and be limitless. You're only 2 steps away. Pick up Disrupt You! by Jay Samit to help you on your journey to live a life of purpose. 

My name is Romario Villanueva.  Entrepreneur & blogger. I'm a graduate from Rutgers University with several certifications from top schools through Coursera. I love all things business, psychology, and basketball. Feel free to reach out to me on Twitter or LinkedIn

 

Entrepreneur Tai Lopez: 3 Ways To Move Up The Pyramid Of Wealth

Hey Friend,

Let me ask you a serious question.

Are you so excited about life that you can't wait to wake up?

Not many people are.

Here's why... We've been duped.

You graduate from high school or college where you've been trained to do a job that doesn't bring you fulfillment...

You're not earning nearly the amount of money you need or want...

You find yourself as simply another cog in the machine...

A machine we call the 9-5 consumer-driven rat race.

It's nice to imagine taking back the lost decades spent in the wrong career.

Unfortunately, the arrow of time never turns backwards.

Just thinking about it makes my stomach churn.

So here's the key... You must cut your future big mistakes to the absolute minimum because mistakes bring regret.

Because as the Dutch say, "We are too soon old, and too late smart."

Some people try to avoid the pain of regret by becoming delusional and saying, "I don't regret anything."

Well, the person with no regrets is a moron.

The masses are looking for satisfaction through consumerism, buying more toys, or finding more momentary pleasure.

The good news is that you don't have to be like everyone else.

The good news is that for you, there is a way to get what you want.

You can be the exception to the rule.

You must start by taking back control of your mind.

>> Click Here to Learn More <<

You must avoid chasing a mirage, the lies of modern day life.

There are no "3 quick secrets" or anything of real value that you can get overnight.

That's what marketers want to sell you.

As my friend Tai says in his TedX talk, "Everybody wants the good life, but not everybody gets the good life."

Because, let's be honest, getting the good life isn't as simple as 3 steps.

So the question is... how many steps really are there?

And if you can't get success overnight, how quickly can you actually make a big change?

Fortunately, there have been many wise people over the last 8,000 years of civilization. And they point the way. They have left clues.

>> Let me introduce you to my friend Tai Lopez's "67 Steps". <<

Tens of thousands of people already following these 67 steps have seen the transformation...

A 15 year old kid is using it to grow his architecture company...

A New York businessman increased his revenue to $50 million a year...

The verdict is in - following the path of the world's greatest people in these 67 steps is a sure bet.

So let me ask you, are you going to be the exception to the rule?

For your sake, I hope so...

>> Get your copy of the 67 Steps <<